It was yet another exciting and adventurous weekend in the life of Drew.
Friday started out as innocent as it can for a weekend night in my life. We were supposed to go to Des Moines for my BFFs birthday party that was originally supposed to happen a month ago, but the bus broke down when it got to us back in January, so we postponed it. AND THEN more STUPID snow struck Friday, so it once again got axed. SO, we were just going to stick around the house and partake in the weekend.
WELL, then a friend suggested we attempt to venture to Des Moines anyway and go on our own adventure, which we did. AND it was fANtAStIc. I would divulge in details, but they're slighty R rated and require you to be 18 or over. Let's just say Flo-Rida's rendition of "Right 'Round" would have been an appropriate song for the evening. ANNNNNND if you're still confused, it probably means you shouldn't know what I'm talking about =).
But then Saturday rolled and it was time for another exciting and wonderful adventure, but alot more G rated.
This weekend I met Barista's family. Whiiiiich was slightly nervous-ing. Like I've previously mentioned, this is my first legitimate relationship,so with that comes never having to meet parentals. So, I was obvi. nervous, wanting to make a good impression and that whole deal.
But it went well. His mom was cute and fun, we played Mario Kart together for like an hour Sunday morning, and his sisters were nice. SO yea. hopefully I got the stamp of approval.
We also watched "Away We Go" which is that new movie with John Krasinski (Jim from the Office) and Maya Rudolph (SNL) and it was really cute. So I recommend that for your netflix que. We also rented "Bruno" which I had heard mixed reviews about. Some people saying it was horrible and offensive-then others telling me I'd love it (knowing that I tend to enjoy offensive,obnoxious humor). It was okay. Nothing horrrrrrible, but nothing that was side splitting halarious either. and that took up our Saturday night.
Sunday, we had lunch with his former professors, who were great. Your typical funny,charasmatic art professors and then we headed home.
THEN Sunday was just chilling out, a nice long nap after we got back and then we watched the Rob Zombie "Halloween" movie. Which was also quite enjoyable. Well as enjoyable as a slasher movie can be. BUT it gave me an excuse you curl up to Barista multiple times =)
Soooo yeah..that was the weekend.
AND I'm contuing to love this Barista kid more and more. And @ times I do that whole mental double check thing and wonder if I'm falling too fast or if I'm letting my imagination run with it or whatever. Since I've been known to do that.
BUT I like to think I'm not. I feel like I'm keeping myself in check with this relationship. It's not like I'm walking around with weDDing bells going off in my head or picturing the little house with the white picket fence...............I'm just saying I'm not completely writing off that possibility anymore.
IDK. The future, especially with relationships is a scary subject to pick up. You want to be optimisitic and think of the best. But you want to be realisitic. Plus it's a self-preservation kinda thing too going on in the back of my head.
For starters, like just mentioned, I don't want to turn into a 16 year old high school girl, where I think my boyfriend is the one I'm meant to be with forever. BUT I would like to think that there is a future with Barista.
But then thinking that scares me. And I don't want to get HoPeFuL and think about these things, specially since it really has only been 6weeks, get in over my head and then get hurt in the end. Not saying he'd do something stupid. I'm just saying, the fork in the road is getting closer within my line of sight.
Come May, what happens? Will I stay in Des Moines? Go to Pennsylvania and work at camp again? Go somewhere else? These could all have impact on things.
Ugh. It's just a whole web of things that's hard to even talk about on here because my mind goes 50 ways with it.
So, I'll probably shutup now. Before I say something stupid. Or waste anymore of your time.
But needless to say. I'm liking what's happening, and I hope the coffee keeps coming....corny? yes. make sense? hopefully. BUT whatever. I'll say what I want ;)
Monday, February 22, 2010
Thursday, February 18, 2010
We'll have to pass for right now
Something happened to me for the first time today.
I got denied a job.
Yes, that's right.
As you may recall I had interviewed for a job on Tuesday. The interview was slightly awkward won't lie and at the end of it the interviewer told me.
"Well, I'm going to have you do a second interview with our general manager. I"m kinda on the fence about you still. You seem nice, but I didn't get enough 'sales' from you."
And then he proceeded to tell me how important add ons and "upgrades" are vital to making money when you're a server.
That was the first first. I had always "aced" interviews. And usually got the response "well, I like you. I think you'd be a good fit. Let me check your references and we'll get back to you." Or I was usually just hired then.
This was the first tim I was actually told . "welll.. IDK how I feel about you."
But he said he'd call Thursday and that I might not have to do the second interview and they might just hire me and give me a shot.
WELL, I got the cal ltoday, but instead of getting told they were just going to take a chance, I was told they "had decided to pass. But if I wanted to try again in 6 months I should."
WHHHAAAT!?!
And I apologize if I sound like some arrogant byotch. But honestly, I had never actually been denied a job. So it's a slight shot to my ego.
On top of that, I am a damn good server! I know how to be friendly, keep my cool under pressure and multitask. And so really, it's their loss not mine.
But still it sucks.
And now it kinda worries me.
Is this what I'm going to have to deal with in a few months, when I start looking at the real job market? Am I going to get told I wasn't agressive enough? Or that they're "just going to pass?"
Ugh. I'm not liking this right now.
What's funny is just Tuesday morning one of my professors was talking about the importance of selling ourselves. And how life is selling yourself and etc. etc. AND Then I get told that in my interview later that day.
So, turns out I need to be more agressive. That's always been something I've lacked on to begin with. It's not that I don't care. I just get awkward. And feel slightly douchey. And I don't want to be one of those people that's like that Jenn girl or whatever her name is from American Idol last week. Who got told she wasn't in the top 24 and proceeded to freak out and beg and swear she had it in her.
Nope, not my style.
So, now I have to figure my style out I spose. Become a liiiitle more agressive, but not freaky agressive.
ugh. this sucks. Maybe I'm not ready to grow up and look for jobs. Can I just stay in school forever?
I got denied a job.
Yes, that's right.
As you may recall I had interviewed for a job on Tuesday. The interview was slightly awkward won't lie and at the end of it the interviewer told me.
"Well, I'm going to have you do a second interview with our general manager. I"m kinda on the fence about you still. You seem nice, but I didn't get enough 'sales' from you."
And then he proceeded to tell me how important add ons and "upgrades" are vital to making money when you're a server.
That was the first first. I had always "aced" interviews. And usually got the response "well, I like you. I think you'd be a good fit. Let me check your references and we'll get back to you." Or I was usually just hired then.
This was the first tim I was actually told . "welll.. IDK how I feel about you."
But he said he'd call Thursday and that I might not have to do the second interview and they might just hire me and give me a shot.
WELL, I got the cal ltoday, but instead of getting told they were just going to take a chance, I was told they "had decided to pass. But if I wanted to try again in 6 months I should."
WHHHAAAT!?!
And I apologize if I sound like some arrogant byotch. But honestly, I had never actually been denied a job. So it's a slight shot to my ego.
On top of that, I am a damn good server! I know how to be friendly, keep my cool under pressure and multitask. And so really, it's their loss not mine.
But still it sucks.
And now it kinda worries me.
Is this what I'm going to have to deal with in a few months, when I start looking at the real job market? Am I going to get told I wasn't agressive enough? Or that they're "just going to pass?"
Ugh. I'm not liking this right now.
What's funny is just Tuesday morning one of my professors was talking about the importance of selling ourselves. And how life is selling yourself and etc. etc. AND Then I get told that in my interview later that day.
So, turns out I need to be more agressive. That's always been something I've lacked on to begin with. It's not that I don't care. I just get awkward. And feel slightly douchey. And I don't want to be one of those people that's like that Jenn girl or whatever her name is from American Idol last week. Who got told she wasn't in the top 24 and proceeded to freak out and beg and swear she had it in her.
Nope, not my style.
So, now I have to figure my style out I spose. Become a liiiitle more agressive, but not freaky agressive.
ugh. this sucks. Maybe I'm not ready to grow up and look for jobs. Can I just stay in school forever?
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
I love you, but I don't have to like you
Sometimes I wonder if I really am a people person.
I like to think I enjoy meeting new people, interacting with people yada yada yada.. BUT there are times where I wonder.
For starters, in all reality, I'm not one to introduce myself to people. I'm horrible at it. I hate "making the first move". It's not that I think I'm some hottie-tottie who should be approached and not have to approach. It's that I always feel awkward doing it. If you come up to me and introduce yourself, I'll be friendly and nice. I just can't introduce myself. PLUS I'm horrible at small talk. HaTe It!
Then there's the fact that some people just annoy me. And I'm not talking about the people that annoy me all the time, the people I'm not friends with and the people that I'd rather just punch in the face and tell them to go away. No, those people don't count. They're already lost causes.
I'm talking about the people that I LOVE on some days and other days they annoy me, for no in particular reason. There's just something that bugs me about them at times and I'd prefer them to go away. It's usually a personality thing, but usually I just want to punch them in the face.......and I feel guilty. Because I have no reason to dislike them when I do. I just do.
I also think my age plays a factor. Especially on weekends. For example, we had a registered party last weekend and if I had the choice, I would've kicked out half the people there. Why?
Because it was either douchey athletes who think they're gods gift to campus. Or turboslut freshmen girls who think wearing short skirts and low tops is going to get them free alochol. AND it annoys me. ALOT. I don't get it. Even though I know I was probably somewhere in that mix 3 years ago.
But yea. that's my rant for the day. I don't like people as much as you think. In fact, there are days I just wish I could punch people and get away with it. I think it'd actually be healthier. Than just bottling it up.
I like to think I enjoy meeting new people, interacting with people yada yada yada.. BUT there are times where I wonder.
For starters, in all reality, I'm not one to introduce myself to people. I'm horrible at it. I hate "making the first move". It's not that I think I'm some hottie-tottie who should be approached and not have to approach. It's that I always feel awkward doing it. If you come up to me and introduce yourself, I'll be friendly and nice. I just can't introduce myself. PLUS I'm horrible at small talk. HaTe It!
Then there's the fact that some people just annoy me. And I'm not talking about the people that annoy me all the time, the people I'm not friends with and the people that I'd rather just punch in the face and tell them to go away. No, those people don't count. They're already lost causes.
I'm talking about the people that I LOVE on some days and other days they annoy me, for no in particular reason. There's just something that bugs me about them at times and I'd prefer them to go away. It's usually a personality thing, but usually I just want to punch them in the face.......and I feel guilty. Because I have no reason to dislike them when I do. I just do.
I also think my age plays a factor. Especially on weekends. For example, we had a registered party last weekend and if I had the choice, I would've kicked out half the people there. Why?
Because it was either douchey athletes who think they're gods gift to campus. Or turboslut freshmen girls who think wearing short skirts and low tops is going to get them free alochol. AND it annoys me. ALOT. I don't get it. Even though I know I was probably somewhere in that mix 3 years ago.
But yea. that's my rant for the day. I don't like people as much as you think. In fact, there are days I just wish I could punch people and get away with it. I think it'd actually be healthier. Than just bottling it up.
Monday, February 15, 2010
Burlesque dancers, fish and Panama City
SO the V-day was a success.
Barista "surprised" me , and surprised is in quotes because he told me about it on Friday, so it wasn't as surprise on Sunday...but anyway...he surprised me with tickets to the St. Vitus and the Taxi Dancers (which is Des Moines' one and only burlesque troop) show, and it was a really good show. There were some saucy sexy numbers and some cute numbers and it was overall entertaining. Granted, the theatre student in me was little more critical than most with a few thigs..but I liked it. And lets face it. nothing says "I Love You" like a boyfriend taking his boyfriend to watch girls dance in their panties....jk..but really, it was fun, and obvi not your typical date for the big V-Day.
And I sucessfully avoided getting him anything sterotypical or disgustingly cheesy...at least I hope. I got him a fish. A big ol black one. the kind with the big eyes. I can't think of the technical name, but hopefully you know what i'm talking about.
Here, this is what it looks like:
Barista "surprised" me , and surprised is in quotes because he told me about it on Friday, so it wasn't as surprise on Sunday...but anyway...he surprised me with tickets to the St. Vitus and the Taxi Dancers (which is Des Moines' one and only burlesque troop) show, and it was a really good show. There were some saucy sexy numbers and some cute numbers and it was overall entertaining. Granted, the theatre student in me was little more critical than most with a few thigs..but I liked it. And lets face it. nothing says "I Love You" like a boyfriend taking his boyfriend to watch girls dance in their panties....jk..but really, it was fun, and obvi not your typical date for the big V-Day.
And I sucessfully avoided getting him anything sterotypical or disgustingly cheesy...at least I hope. I got him a fish. A big ol black one. the kind with the big eyes. I can't think of the technical name, but hopefully you know what i'm talking about.
Here, this is what it looks like:
Because his other fish, Harriet, had died last week. We decided this one was a boy and named it Jules Winnfield (like after Samuel L. Jackson's character in Pulp Fiction).
I'm slightly worried the things going to croak since I have the WORST luck with fish. But I'm hoping that maybe because it's technically his, the fish will survive....we'll see.
I did get him chocolate though. But not the stupid,sterotypical, overpriced and overdone box of heart chocolate. Just a simple giant bar of Hershey's with Almonds (PS can I pull a Kim Kardashian here and get 10grand for name dropping, even though its not a tweet...its still a mention and I'm on the same level as her, aren't I?) Since that's one of his favorites.
So yea, overall a pretty fantastic v-day. Granted, I don't have any to really compare it to. BUT I liked it.alot.
We also went to a movie on Friday and saw "When In Rome" which was an adorable little slightly lovey-dovey chick flick. Yes, I am one of those gays that likes chick flicks.........But actually it wasn't too bad as far as "chick flicks" go. Annnnnnnnd while he was silently complaning, he's not a fan of those types of movies. He still went with me =). BUT, he can SHHHH anyway, I went to Daybreakers-which was that horrible movie where the world as all vampires and they farmed humans for blood with him awhile ago. So, NOW we're even.. and if he's reading this..THATS RIGHT I SAID IT!
In other news...
I got a B+ on the advertising test I was freaking out about last week. So HORRAY to me. I was really thinking I had scraped by with a C, so I was more than happy with that grade!
Annnd I still hate winter and it's continuing to snow.
Screw you Iowa.
1 month til Panama City!!!!
Saturday, February 13, 2010
In which I epically fail
So,
I was thinking the other day. It's something I do alot of. And I got to thinking about my NYE resolutions and how I have EPICALLY failed at keeping theme.
As a reminder here's what they were:
I was thinking the other day. It's something I do alot of. And I got to thinking about my NYE resolutions and how I have EPICALLY failed at keeping theme.
As a reminder here's what they were:
- Give Up some vices
- Workout
- Become $$ responsible
- Do what I say I'm going to
- Do a random act of kindness everyday
1) Give Up Some Vices-okay, so I've actually succeed in this one. I'm not doing some of the stupid crap I used to and I feel about myself for that.
2)Workout-hahaha. The only time I've set foot in Cowles since returning to Simpson is either during an admissions tour or to watch a basketball game =( And I can't even use the busy excuse. I have plenty of time I could get in there and workout, I just don't think about it. I keep telling myself I'll get to it again. But we shall see. I'd still like to. I hate being a scrawny little twink.
3)Become $$ responsible- this one is a toss up. I like to think I'm not as randomly spending as I used to, but I still pry buy things I shouldn't. I think what is also the problem is I have yet to find a part time job. i would be A-OK on things if I was actually working. I've partially attempted to find a PT job but really didn't try as well as I should've..SOOOO I went job hunting today and we'll see how that pans out. The thing is, I get picky. I'm used to being a server and I love that job. Cash at the end of every night and you usally make good$$$. So It's hard to go work a minumum wage job at The Gap or a gas station. Which PS, a big THANKS 4 NOTHING to them. I "re-interviewed" with them in like beginning of January ( I had worked there for over a year back in junior year, but had to leave at the beginning of '09) and the girl was all "okay great, I'll get back to you soon and we'll get you started again. "BUT I've heard nothing. SO I don't want anything to do them. Their loss. I was a great employee! So yea. If I can get a job again, I know I'll be fine!
4) Do what I say I'm going to-ummm...idk about this one either...I don't really know if there's much I've said "okay, this is a new goal". Which maybe is an issue. I don't know. I spose you could say I fail at this one too..ugh..whateve
5)Do a random act of kindness- This one is harder than I thought. I spose it depends on your definition of random act of kindness. If it's just smiling at someone or holding a door open, I'm good. But if you want more from me. well, lo siento. I fail.
I like too, how I swore when I wrote my original blog about these goals back in 2009. I thought 2010 would be different and I'd accomplish them..hahaha...I sounded like some college freshman, bright eyed and bushy tailed. And have since obviously failed..horribly and epically..but that's reallllly nothing new.
eh.oh well.
In other news....
Tomorrow's valentines day. I'm supposed to be spending it with Barista, obvi. BUUUT right now apparenty it is supposed to snow...again..a big EF you to that too...Iowa is now historical, 60+ days with more than 4inches of snow on the ground. SCREW THAT! Ugh..I freakin' hate winter more than I hate obvious closet cases. But hopefully it works out. He got us tickets to this Burlesque show thats going on in DSM..which should be fun, I've heard good things about the troupe..
I'm also currently trying to think of a fantastic costume for a party I have to be at in an hour. The theme is "future" and i have no clue..its too broad..i'll pry go and go with something scandy.. I usually do..it's what gets the best responses..and like everyone says.. I'm fuckin' drew. I'll do what I want.
speaking of..i need to go..so I can do this outfit thing.
ciao
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
Conflict of Interest
Okay. So technically I doubt conflict of interest is the correct term, but I am currently facing a personal conflict of sorts.
Here's the deal, as we all know this Sunday is Valentine's Day aka: singles awareness day.
Well, for the first time ever, I will NOT be single on Valentine's Day. And I'm not quite sure what to do.
And I know that sounds awkward, so, time out before your judge and let me explain.
Anyway. Today, as I was walking across campus, dreading my advertising test and thinking of what else I needed to do, v-day came into my mind and I started to brainstorm what I wanted to do for Barista. I've had a few ideas, but won't share them on here because he reads the blog and I don't want to ruin the surprise. But I want it to be something "different" I guess. Not your typical cards and flowers and that. Something that'd be funny. Something he'd like. And I kind of got excited about the idea.,about being able to do something special for my special someone. sidenote: I know that almost sounds slightly disgustingly sentimental..but eh..oh well...
And here's where the conflict comes in.
Up until now I've had pretty much an abhorence for the "holiday," probably because I've always been single.but whatever. There' still a part of me that just doesn't get it. I don't understand why we have to have one special day to show our significant others that we adore them, shouldn't we do that all the time?
To me it's almost like a pissing match with ourselves and even our "lovers". Competing with ourselves to show how much and big we can show we appreciate our boyfriend/girlfriend.
Then you have the couples who just buy the card and their box of chocolates because they feel like they have to. OR you have the needy person who expects to get catered to on V-Day, even though their partner probably spoils them the other 364 days of the year.
So yea, there's part of me that doesn't want to succomb to this whole notion of Valentine's Day.
BUT then there's the hopeless romantic in me who wants to do something for Barista,surprise him (even though that element now may be gone if he reads this) and let him know how I feel besides the normal things I say.
And I should also point out at this time now, is as far as I go, I don't care. I'm not expecting anything from the barista or hoping he does something cute and sweet. Really, I just want to hang out with him for a day again. We probably haven't gotten to spend a decent amount of time together since I've gotten back to school. Thanks to my crazy schedule, his busy work schedule and etc.I really don't know the last time we've spent more than 3 hours in one solid chunk together and it sucks. SO, that's what I'd like for the big day. Legitimate time with my boyfriend =).
So, yea... I'll let you know what happens.
Here's the deal, as we all know this Sunday is Valentine's Day aka: singles awareness day.
Well, for the first time ever, I will NOT be single on Valentine's Day. And I'm not quite sure what to do.
And I know that sounds awkward, so, time out before your judge and let me explain.
Anyway. Today, as I was walking across campus, dreading my advertising test and thinking of what else I needed to do, v-day came into my mind and I started to brainstorm what I wanted to do for Barista. I've had a few ideas, but won't share them on here because he reads the blog and I don't want to ruin the surprise. But I want it to be something "different" I guess. Not your typical cards and flowers and that. Something that'd be funny. Something he'd like. And I kind of got excited about the idea.,about being able to do something special for my special someone. sidenote: I know that almost sounds slightly disgustingly sentimental..but eh..oh well...
And here's where the conflict comes in.
Up until now I've had pretty much an abhorence for the "holiday," probably because I've always been single.but whatever. There' still a part of me that just doesn't get it. I don't understand why we have to have one special day to show our significant others that we adore them, shouldn't we do that all the time?
To me it's almost like a pissing match with ourselves and even our "lovers". Competing with ourselves to show how much and big we can show we appreciate our boyfriend/girlfriend.
Then you have the couples who just buy the card and their box of chocolates because they feel like they have to. OR you have the needy person who expects to get catered to on V-Day, even though their partner probably spoils them the other 364 days of the year.
So yea, there's part of me that doesn't want to succomb to this whole notion of Valentine's Day.
BUT then there's the hopeless romantic in me who wants to do something for Barista,surprise him (even though that element now may be gone if he reads this) and let him know how I feel besides the normal things I say.
And I should also point out at this time now, is as far as I go, I don't care. I'm not expecting anything from the barista or hoping he does something cute and sweet. Really, I just want to hang out with him for a day again. We probably haven't gotten to spend a decent amount of time together since I've gotten back to school. Thanks to my crazy schedule, his busy work schedule and etc.I really don't know the last time we've spent more than 3 hours in one solid chunk together and it sucks. SO, that's what I'd like for the big day. Legitimate time with my boyfriend =).
So, yea... I'll let you know what happens.
Monday, February 8, 2010
MAYBE it's you...not everyone else
Consider this your warning. The following blog may contain material and statements that offends, particularly if you happen to be of a minority group. I'm here to tell you NOW that I DON'T CARE if it does. And chances are, if you do get offended, it's because you are one of the people I am talking about. AND if it doesn't offend you, well then, happy reading.
Okay, so here's my take on issues that are related to minorities. Whether its due to gender,skin,color, sexual orientation etc. Through the experiences I've either had first hand ,witnessed or heard about, it is my belief that often times these issues of getting the shaft because you're {insert minority here} is bullshit.
Yep. I just said that. I think that most of the time people play the minority card too quickly and too easily and if you took a step back and looked at the situation you would see that you're probably the person at fault, not the white middle class male you're hating on.
YES, there are still unfortunate incidents where legitmate racism/heterosexism/sexism are occuring and I recognize that, and I am just as angry about the injustice as you are, but I think those times often times are less in number than the "supposed" ones.
Take for instance this kid on campus. He's a tool. He's cocky,douchy and walks around like he's a gift to SC. 9am to 3pm when he's in class he's a well dressed,well spoken, somewhat competant person. But after 5pm, he's a overly large brightly colored shirt wearing, pants halfway down his ass toten, sideways hat,fake swagger struttin individual. WTF!? This individual often calls the race card, when really its for the aformentioned reasons people hate on him.
In addition, I recently heard about an incident where residents of a campus housing unit were playing their music way too loud at midnight,which is designated "quiet hours". This wasn't the first time it has happened, it happens nightly. Well, the neighbor went to the CA and complained. When the CA asked the accused party to quiet down the residents got pissed, went to the dean of students who works with the minority students on campus and complained. Now, CA's are afraid to enforce the rules that everyone else has to live by, with persons of a minority, because they've been told to be careful. Since apparently, enforcing the rules on a room of students blaring music at 12am is racism.
Women are the same way. No, actually you're not getting the shaft because you're a woman, you're getting it because you're underqualified, can't meet work expectations.
And even the gays. Shut up. And I'll admit I am guilty of it at times. But no one really gives a shit or thinks about your sexuality. You're getting made fun of because your acting like a d-bag.
I think if minorities just shut up and lived their lives like we expect everyone else to, we would be A-OK. There wouldn't be issues.
I actually feel bad for the white, middle class, heterosexual man. He's the one that gets hated on. He can't make a sexist comment because then he's a machoistic pig. Makes a comment about blacks and he's racist and uses the term gay he's homophobic. GET OVER IT!
We all live into our sterotypes lets get real. We all admit it and we make fun ourselves for it, so why can't others? And if you want to get technical, they're the ones that made up the jokes and names for us, so shouldn't they have dibs on using them?
I'm not a racist. I believe in equal opportunity for everything and etc. and I know that there still is legitimate issues with payment in the workplace and stuff like that. But people need to quit making such a fuss and live and let live.
Then maybe, we would get along.
Okay, so here's my take on issues that are related to minorities. Whether its due to gender,skin,color, sexual orientation etc. Through the experiences I've either had first hand ,witnessed or heard about, it is my belief that often times these issues of getting the shaft because you're {insert minority here} is bullshit.
Yep. I just said that. I think that most of the time people play the minority card too quickly and too easily and if you took a step back and looked at the situation you would see that you're probably the person at fault, not the white middle class male you're hating on.
YES, there are still unfortunate incidents where legitmate racism/heterosexism/sexism are occuring and I recognize that, and I am just as angry about the injustice as you are, but I think those times often times are less in number than the "supposed" ones.
Take for instance this kid on campus. He's a tool. He's cocky,douchy and walks around like he's a gift to SC. 9am to 3pm when he's in class he's a well dressed,well spoken, somewhat competant person. But after 5pm, he's a overly large brightly colored shirt wearing, pants halfway down his ass toten, sideways hat,fake swagger struttin individual. WTF!? This individual often calls the race card, when really its for the aformentioned reasons people hate on him.
In addition, I recently heard about an incident where residents of a campus housing unit were playing their music way too loud at midnight,which is designated "quiet hours". This wasn't the first time it has happened, it happens nightly. Well, the neighbor went to the CA and complained. When the CA asked the accused party to quiet down the residents got pissed, went to the dean of students who works with the minority students on campus and complained. Now, CA's are afraid to enforce the rules that everyone else has to live by, with persons of a minority, because they've been told to be careful. Since apparently, enforcing the rules on a room of students blaring music at 12am is racism.
Women are the same way. No, actually you're not getting the shaft because you're a woman, you're getting it because you're underqualified, can't meet work expectations.
And even the gays. Shut up. And I'll admit I am guilty of it at times. But no one really gives a shit or thinks about your sexuality. You're getting made fun of because your acting like a d-bag.
I think if minorities just shut up and lived their lives like we expect everyone else to, we would be A-OK. There wouldn't be issues.
I actually feel bad for the white, middle class, heterosexual man. He's the one that gets hated on. He can't make a sexist comment because then he's a machoistic pig. Makes a comment about blacks and he's racist and uses the term gay he's homophobic. GET OVER IT!
We all live into our sterotypes lets get real. We all admit it and we make fun ourselves for it, so why can't others? And if you want to get technical, they're the ones that made up the jokes and names for us, so shouldn't they have dibs on using them?
I'm not a racist. I believe in equal opportunity for everything and etc. and I know that there still is legitimate issues with payment in the workplace and stuff like that. But people need to quit making such a fuss and live and let live.
Then maybe, we would get along.
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